1. We Are Not Your Mothers
It is not our job to take care of grown men. Set your own appointments, keep an eye on your own credit rating, take care of your own health, and well-being. If we’re working on uplifting our own damn selves and turn around to find that we are also responsible for making sure you are on point — things won’t go far. Know that basic efforts get no applause. You will not be handed a cookie for doing what you should already be doing. We will not praise you for having a job, a car, an education, common decency.
2. Our Ambition Is Multi-Faceted
An ambitious woman isn’t just gung-ho checking her e-mail and setting up meetings with clients. She’s ambitious about her whole entire life. Understand that a woman who rarely sits down is also going to be a fierce partner to you. Goal setting? Stacking money? Traveling the world? This is the woman who will partner with you to make these things happen. If that’s something you can match, have at it.
If not, step out of the way.
3. You Don’t Own Our Time or Our Attention
A lot of people we come into contact with while trying to network, shop for clients, and collaborate with are male. They might even be single and attractive males. Should we turn down relationships that might benefit our goals just because you feel insecure about what may happen during a discussion over coffee? Nope. No one expects a man to turn down a business connection just because the body attached to the hand
they’re shaking happens to be well toned and female. Ambitious women will network unapologetically —
so get your ego in check.
4. We Are Our Biggest Fans
I’m a writer. Therefore the man who wishes to grace my most intimate spaces on a regular basis should always be my biggest fan. We don’t have to love the same things to love what each of us is driving towards. If you aren’t a little amazed by what I put my energy into, how could you possibly understand and support what it takes to strive for the things that motivate me? If you aren’t prepared to read some copy, subscribe to my blogs and even retweet my link, we don’t go together, baby. I am so, sooo sorry.
Because you can damn sure bet that I’m hyping you up at every turn, whatever your efforts, wherever your passions.
5. We Work Hard/We Twerk Hard
All work and no play…
blah, blah, blah.
You know the drill. There has to be some time to step away and enjoy life or what the hell are we even doing this for? So mini vacations, dance breaks in the kitchen, impromptu nights out with friends, “look at this video” sharing and carefree romps in bed are basically a must. But understand fun may not always be about us spending time together. Support fun in whatever forms they need to come in — even if it’s in the form of separate nights out or weekend getaways with our own groups.
As hard as we work — so should we play.
6. You Should Never Forget or Fail to Understand Your Replaceability
Not that a good man is a dime a dozen, but a good man certainly won’t warrant ejection in the first place. Therefore, if you’re bordering on fucking up please be aware that an ambitious woman is not going to wait until something devastating happens before making her exit. When a woman is focused on a goal, she is likely very protective of it. Meaning when you begin to display an immunity to these written truths, it is likely that you’ll be handed your walking papers WAAAAY in advance of trouble. Love is something you do daily — not a government job.
You can be fired.
7. You Need to Take Note of the New Status Quo
In case you haven’t realized, this is the new woman. Harriet started it, Angela re-defined it, Beyonce popularized it, and Michelle has established the new standard. Understand that women have evolved into something very beautiful. True partners to a strong man and what’s more — possible competition. This is not to put men in their place, replace them, or even minimize them. Men are and always will be highly necessary in the world as a whole, and specifically in the lives of strong women. But just know that passive women are becoming fewer and further between. More and more, often the submissive part of women resides strictly in the bedroom and sometimes not even there.
So either rise to o
ur occasion or settle for a lesser breed. (No wonder they always go for less)
There Are a Lot of Men Who Deserve a Pat on the Back
These truths are not for the men out there who are hustling right alongside their girl, lifting her up and allowing himself to be lifted by her as well. These truths are not for the men who have no issues with stepping their game up and in turn asking their lady to continue to step hers up as well. Because those men already know there truths and a lot more, like the fact that:
The couple that rises together will shine together and that is the most rewarding kind of Black love there is.
Our struggle is fierce, but our hustle is harder.Copied
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