Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Welcome Sir
Please can you introduce yourself Mr Olusegun Aderogba
Olusegun Aderogba Good Evening. I am Segun Aderogba. I am a teacher of God's word basically and I have great delight in helping young people maximize their life through the wisdom of God.
Please can you introduce yourself Mr Olusegun Aderogba
Olusegun Aderogba Good Evening. I am Segun Aderogba. I am a teacher of God's word basically and I have great delight in helping young people maximize their life through the wisdom of God.Adaeze : Today we will discussing on Sex, marriage and spiritualityHow long have you been married sir
Olusegun Aderogba About 7 years now.
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha That is good to know sirCan you walk back the Memory Lane of meeting Mrs Olusegun Aderogba and how you were convinced she was the one for you sir!
Can you walk back the Memory Lane of meeting Mrs Olusegun Aderogba and how you were convinced she was the one for you sir!
When I first met wife, It never looked like we were going to make it this far. She was far more exposed, posh and with seeming intimidating beautiful than my standard could accomodate.
My world stood still for a moment the first time I set my eyes on her. I was totally swept off my feet. her words were like dripping of honey and her countenance was nothing short of an angelic appearance
On that faithful Sunday, I was coming from a ministration and I stopped bye to see the pastor of the church she was worshiping at that time who happens to be a father to me and she was also waiting to see him.
I said nothing that day but I registered my presence, looked at her severally in a holy way and the Joy with which the pastor received me was a plus.
The following Sunday, I was invited speak in the teens church. I was so glad to come back to continue what I started. After the service, I proceeded to the main church and then we met again, we started talking and never stopped. There was always something to talk about, It was at this point that I knew she was the one I've been searching for.
Three days later, I spoke to her Pastor about it and declared my intentions to her immediately.
Her family were deeply concerned for us. The love looks too good to be true.
One part of their heart believed in our love and emotional connection while the other was anxious about our continuity and sustenance. My line of business might not look too promising at that time but I was willing to risk it by holding on to a picture of a bigger future and walking towards it, I convinced her to see the same picture that drives me. My faith in God which has always produced and will not fail in our case. We agreed and we were good to go
I worked hard during the day overseeing several projects and still devoted at least one hour in the evening to visit her not minding driving through Lagos traffic.
An inner vision is a sure guide to a great future. Even when no one saw it, We held on to it and lived in it while anticipating to watch it made manifest.
What do you see? display your vision not your possession.
When I first met wife, It never looked like we were going to make it this far. She was far more exposed, posh and with seeming intimidating beautiful than my standard could accomodate.
My world stood still for a moment the first time I set my eyes on her. I was totally swept off my feet. her words were like dripping of honey and her countenance was nothing short of an angelic appearance
On that faithful Sunday, I was coming from a ministration and I stopped bye to see the pastor of the church she was worshiping at that time who happens to be a father to me and she was also waiting to see him.
I said nothing that day but I registered my presence, looked at her severally in a holy way and the Joy with which the pastor received me was a plus.
The following Sunday, I was invited speak in the teens church. I was so glad to come back to continue what I started. After the service, I proceeded to the main church and then we met again, we started talking and never stopped. There was always something to talk about, It was at this point that I knew she was the one I've been searching for.
Three days later, I spoke to her Pastor about it and declared my intentions to her immediately.
Her family were deeply concerned for us. The love looks too good to be true.
One part of their heart believed in our love and emotional connection while the other was anxious about our continuity and sustenance. My line of business might not look too promising at that time but I was willing to risk it by holding on to a picture of a bigger future and walking towards it, I convinced her to see the same picture that drives me. My faith in God which has always produced and will not fail in our case. We agreed and we were good to go
I worked hard during the day overseeing several projects and still devoted at least one hour in the evening to visit her not minding driving through Lagos traffic.
An inner vision is a sure guide to a great future. Even when no one saw it, We held on to it and lived in it while anticipating to watch it made manifest.
What do you see? display your vision not your possession.
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha You made a point which I would love you to Elaborate sir "She was more Exposed than me"How did you handle the ego part?
How did you handle the ego part? And what is your advise to young unmarried men who are scared of ladies seemly more exposed than they are?
Olusegun Aderogba Well. Communication and sharing a vision greater than one person can handle. Developing a team spirit for a large picture of raisin a great family I made her buy into my vision. Been hardworking and determined was of great advantage.16 hrs
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Did she has to loose her identity and Dream so as to make you feel goodOr did you work it out?
Please share with us Sir Olusegun Aderogba
Or did you work it out?
Please share with us Sir Olusegun Aderogba
Olusegun Aderogba Well. She was strong willed person. I'm softer. Guess that made us compliment each other. She still wanted to retain her surname with mine. But we talked about it severally and she gave it up. Communication was the key.Her dream was God- given. So I embraced it. But we had to find a way to make it become our dream. We are one. And we can't live a separate life.
Olusegun Aderogba My love for God was a major point of her attraction. I kept nothing from her cornering my life and visionOlusegun Aderogba Sincerely .. I worked hard to earn her friendship. Twas not so easy lots of challenges, but we got through each level by the help of God and willingness to make it workOlusegun Aderogba Relationship is work .. it's not as easy as you think. When two people intend to become 1. A lot of friction must be expected and managed to avoid damage in the relationshipOlusegun Aderogba I embraced her dreams and she embraced mine. All working out for a common good to raise a family. Till date all our accounts are known to both. None of us has hidden cash that's not knownAdaeze Oluchi Jacintha We should go directly to Today's topicSex, Marriage and Spirituality
But before we plunge deeper sir, The Words "Bed undefiled" does it ring a bell?
Sex, Marriage and Spirituality
But before we plunge deeper sir, The Words "Bed undefiled" does it ring a bell?
Olusegun Aderogba Marriage bed. The scriptures say. Singles don't have a bed.Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha You are rightWhat is your advise on that
Owing to how much civilisation have eaten deep into today's Christianity
What is your advise on that
Owing to how much civilisation have eaten deep into today's Christianity
Olusegun Aderogba I talking about this in my upcoming book. It's quite sensitive a discussion so I put it in a book. You ll see the ad for the book soonAdaeze Oluchi Jacintha It's gold you are putting down something beautiful in writing about that, the only issue I have is that we have chosen to be what our Slave masters said we are in a popular adage that if you want to hide the truth from a black man, put it in a book form
How do we encourage our youths to devote more time reading than doing other irrelevant things remains a huge challenge
How do we encourage our youths to devote more time reading than doing other irrelevant things remains a huge challenge
Olusegun Aderogba It's getting to that point when frustration will cause them to find the books that will help their livesOlusegun Aderogba You see. It's even more difficult for two people who are sexually active in their past relationship to shy away from sex. But there beauty in purtiy. It will come with a lot of pain if you choose to wait till marriage. But you'll be happy you did.Olusegun Aderogba Including in sex before marriage rubs people of several things. Especially rich communication and peace of mind. The moment sex is involved everthing changesOlusegun Aderogba Communication breaks down. Spiritually. The relationship stall. They just keep going in circles..Then sex becomes a cover up for a lot of issues that should have been trashed while courting
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Can you shed more light on how premarital sex affects our spirituality and what a child of God should do to run away from such temptation?Sir Olusegun AderogbaSir Olusegun Aderogba
Olusegun Aderogba Well. Like I said. Even If you are not a child of God, your body is not yours. It's leased to you by God. So you are accountable . The scriptures says. The body is not for fornication. I'd never judge folks who are guilty but I ve been calling them to come out and seek for help before it's too late.Olusegun Aderogba They key is seek for help if you are drown in personal inability to stop. God being the chief helperAdaeze Oluchi Jacintha Thank you Man of GodCouple of Times sincere intending couples approached me for an advise on if they should continue with the marriage processes even though they have fallen into Fornication once or twice.
Couple of Times sincere intending couples approached me for an advise on if they should continue with the marriage processes even though they have fallen into Fornication once or twice. What is the Best Advise for such persons?
Olusegun Aderogba It's good they came to u. It's a good sign of willingness to repent. You don't cut off your head because of head ache.Olusegun Aderogba They have more work to do. By no creating the enabling environmentsAdaeze Oluchi Jacintha The cliche of "How will you know if he is a man or if she is good in sex as a woman" how did you and your wife overcome it during courtshipOlusegun Aderogba You know how binding sex can be. I've relied on the grace of God all my life as a Christian in that area. Today, I see the benefit that I have known one woman sexually. In times of crisis it helps me think straight. I just can't share all that here cos its planned for a book.Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Great Testimony sir
And to all the bro who thinks men cannot marry as virgins... Plz take note
And to all the bro who thinks men cannot marry as virgins... Plz take note
Olusegun Aderogba Well. I did not marry as a virgin. After two years of dating. Something went wrong. But We repented and continued our relationshipAdaeze Oluchi Jacintha This is sincerity of the highest orderGod bless you Sir for sharing
God bless you Sir for sharing
Olusegun Aderogba Then when we got married. I thanked God that I did not give to sex in my past relationships.Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Because there will be no room for comparison I guess?Olusegun Aderogba Yes. We were out for each other. And till date I've not bought any car in my name since we met. All our cars are in her name till date. Even before we got marriedAdaeze Oluchi Jacintha During courtship, was there identified weakness in your wife which would have made you change your mind?If yes, how did you handle it sir
If yes, how did you handle it sir
Olusegun Aderogba Of course. We almost ended it. But our purpose brought us back. The waeknesses became obvious.Olusegun Aderogba She was strong willed and I wanted to establish order. That was our major issue.. she was sacred if I would be able to sustain the family. Having no university degree. Today we are Happy. God is blessing us.Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Being a public figureHow do you handle the temptation from female fans who ignorantly may pose as danger to your relationship?
How do you handle the temptation from female fans who ignorantly may pose as danger to your relationship?
Sally Inyie Ayebaye-Wanatoi Thanks for the exposés Sir. Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Can I post my questions now or later?Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Hello Noble audience please you can ask your questionsHe will attempt them
Sally Inyie Ayebaye-Wanatoi Sir Olusegun Aderogba, what do you advise a lady who decided to avoid premarital sex and ended up marrying a man who she now discovers cannot satisfy her sexually- perhaps due to impotence or something else(she's about quitting the marriage, cos of her sexual needs)·
Olusegun Aderogba Well. Like I said. The concept of love is sacrifice. I know how painful that can be.The man betrayed the lady. He should have told her before marriage. She has to start her journey by forgiving him and forgiving herself
The man betrayed the lady. He should have told her before marriage. She has to start her journey by forgiving him and forgiving herself
Olusegun Aderogba To quit the marriage is not the best option. Not knowing what she will get into. But I know that God can turn the tides as they seek medical he
Blessing Akpan Sir Olusegun Aderogba, when you say divorce is not the option, what of the one that they have been married for 5yrs and they have never had sex I told her they had room for divorce but others said she should stay. She has tried counseling and all but the hubby isn't willing to do all thatOlusegun Aderogba Well. Don't forget. Marriage is a covenant. To the best of my knowledge. When option for divorce come in. Rays of hope will be shattered. 5 years no sex? What's is the matter
Sally Inyie Ayebaye-Wanatoi So, what do you advice, 1. as an expert in your field, 2. As a brother to herBlessing Akpan She is also confused and the guy never opened up, she said she hasn't ever seen him on singlets sef, It might sound strange but it's real.Blessing Akpan My opinion has always been that sex sealed the covenant of marriage therefore she should divorce him.Olusegun Aderogba Well. I think she should refer the case to her pastor.Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Blessing stated above that the man is not willing to take counselWhat should the woman do in such case?
What should the woman do in such case?
Blessing Akpan He refused to talk to the pastor, psychiatrist and even counselors that she paid for. He is an assistant pastor by the way16 hrs
Mbamalu Chinwe Are you serious right now?? There is nothing to pray about in it. She should gerrrout of that marriage please. What nonsense!!Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Sir Olusegun AderogbaWhat is your take on Christian couples who watches porn to enhance their sexual relationship? What is your take on Christian couples who watches porn to enhance their sexual relationship?
Is it healthy and spiritually sound?
What us your advise?
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha I asked because I know of some men of God who sees nothing wrong in watching porn with their spousesAnd I wonder what they are implying
Olusegun Aderogba The word is pornea. It embodies all forms of immorality.. men who expose their family to porn will end up seek seeking sex else where to replicate experience and drift into have multiple sex partner and expose their families to diseases and shameSally Inyie Ayebaye-Wanatoi So, what educational sexual materials do you recommend, cos I've heard of some videos done for educational purposes. Do those qualify as Porn too?Olusegun Aderogba There are lots of books that people can learn from . We had a lesson on sex in our premarital class.Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Any book for recommendationsOlusegun Aderogba There Is one written by a popular Ghanian pastor.Sally Inyie Ayebaye-Wanatoi So, if it's video, it must be a documentary of talks and explanations and not necessarily with visual aids or motion pictures?Unlike · Reply · 2 · 16 hrs · Edited
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha I have seen some videos purely animated for sex education purposesThey use cartoon like creature to show example
I don't fink such is porn
They use cartoon like creature to show example
I don't fink such is porn
Olusegun Aderogba Well. I don't know about that. I'm yet to see such. But there is a wiring in man that tells him what to do.Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Looking back sirIf you are asked to make a fresh choice will you choose your wife?
If yes why?
If you are asked to make a fresh choice will you choose your wife?
If yes why?
Olusegun Aderogba Yes, I will. I just think God had me in her when she was coming conceived. She is my best friend.· 16 hrs
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Looking back sir
If you are asked to make a fresh choice will you choose your wife?
If yes
Why?
Sir Olusegun Aderogba
If you are asked to make a fresh choice will you choose your wife?
If yes
Why?
Sir Olusegun Aderogba
Olusegun Aderogba Yes, I will. I just think God had me in her when she was coming conceived. She is my best friend.
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha 7 years of marriage has its up and downs
Aside praying together what other forms do you wispy in sorting out your differences?
What do you advise couples that keep malice?
Aside praying together what other forms do you wispy in sorting out your differences?
What do you advise couples that keep malice?
Olusegun Aderogba Only once or twice have we involved a third party. And that was some1 we both agreed to talk to over a major argument we could not handle. Aside we talk about everything humbly and ready to move forward
Olusegun Aderogba Find some1 to talk to when you can't handle it anymore . Be willing to make amends
Olusegun Aderogba Marriage is work oooooh. Don't get it twisted
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha We are almost rounding up
Sir Olusegun Aderogba how is your social life like with your wife?
What is your advise to other couples know how to spice their social life together?
Sir Olusegun Aderogba how is your social life like with your wife?
What is your advise to other couples know how to spice their social life together?
Olusegun Aderogba Fantastic. We just went away for weekend. Infact this afternoon in Ogun state we were looking for a local place to eat local amala.
She know I dislike make up. She likes me to always wear native. I try. She told me she is going natural self. Which I always advocated for. I try not to impose.
She know I dislike make up. She likes me to always wear native. I try. She told me she is going natural self. Which I always advocated for. I try not to impose.
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha Finally for tonight
Sir, what is your advise to intending couple
What should a man look out most in an intending wife, What should a woman look out most in an intending hubby?
Sir, what is your advise to intending couple
What should a man look out most in an intending wife, What should a woman look out most in an intending hubby?
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha And one final controversial question????
Have you ever cheated on your wife physically or emotionally
Have you ever cheated on your wife physically or emotionally
Olusegun Aderogba Well. The temptation to cheat will always present itself especially emotionally. I meet people often. Like I said earlier I keep reminding myself that I have to keep fighting lust as much as I teach people to do so. I sometimes find myself connect ing with some other ladies emotionally but I endeavour to put certain measures in place to keep me in check
Blessing Akpan Could you please give us an example of the measure you put in place apart from carrying your wife along to functions.
Olusegun Aderogba My wife knows all my movement. I'm spontaneous though. My plans and movements change so easily
Adaeze Oluchi Jacintha It's a pleasure having you on tonight's program sir Olusegun Aderogba
It has been quite expository. Thanks for sharing with us.
Hope to have you some other days in future.It has been quite expository. Thanks for sharing with us.
And so Ladies and Gentlemen we draw the curtain here officially
Though questions and answers should still be attended to till my amiable guest is exhausted.
#Winks.
Nwankaaku Silas
Wow, I can't believe this kind of interview section is happening on Facebook..... Nice one
I've learnt a lot. God bless you
I've learnt a lot. God bless you
Olusegun Aderogba Thank for having us.
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